According to the book of Daniel sapter 12 vs 4 which comfirmed Knowledge to be increased at the end time.Today we can read our Bible on android, ipad, tablet and so on.
Now the question is that. How do you feel inspired when you read your Bible on any of devices mentioned compared to when you reed your manual Bible? I believe this is an argumentative question.
Find the response of the people all around the world to this question HERE.You can also share what you think about it. Thanks.
Tuesday, 12 April 2016
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Those are among the top findings in a new Pew Research study of the gender gap in religion, drawn from data in 192 nations, released Tuesday (March 22). The overall conclusion: Women, particularly Christian, are generally more religious than men worldwide. An estimated 83 percent of women around the world identify with a faith group, compared with 80 percent of men, according to the report.
That’s not a conclusion people could reach by observation, say demographer Conrad Hackett and senior writer and editor Caryle Murphy, co-authors of the report.
“If you were a Christian woman in Kansas and you and your husband both go to church, you might think men and women are equally religious,” said Murphy.
That’s not so, she said. “We pray more than our male peers, we attend church more and we are more likely to say our religion is important to us,” she said. This same hypothetical American might also want to know about a Muslim neighbor down the street “who belongs to a faith where men and women are very much alike in their commitment,” said Murphy.
The only exception for Muslims, who make up 23 percent of the world population, is that men attend mosque more than women, said Hackett. Among the findings:
* In 61 of 192 countries studied, women are more likely than men to claim a religious identity.
“There’s not always a huge difference but when there is a difference, it always favors women,” said Hackett. * The nones people with no self-identified religious affiliation — are more likely to be men: 55 percent to 45 percent for women. * Religiosity lessens among Christian women as they move up the economic ladder.
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Gov. Phil Bryant signed House Bill 1523, despite opposition from gay-rights groups and some businesses who say it allows discrimination. Some conservative and religious groups supported the bill. Opponents of the law, however, see it as a sword against LGBT people, not a shield for Christian conservatives.
The measure's stated goal is to protect those who believe that marriage should be between one man and one woman, that sexual relations should only take place inside such marriages, and that male and female genders are unchangeable.
The measure allows churches, religious charities and privately held businesses to decline services to people whose lifestyles violate their religious beliefs. Individual government employees may also opt out, although the measure says governments must still provide services.
Governor vetoes bill permitting use of Bible in schooling
BOISE, Idaho (AP) — Idaho Gov. C. L. "Butch" Otter has vetoed legislation that would have expressly permitted the use of the Bible in public school instruction, calling the measure unconstitutional.
In the veto's accompanying letter Otter said he respects the Bible, but the measure would result in costly litigation for Idaho's public schools. He said the measure directly contradicts Idaho's Constitution.
The bill stated the Bible could be used for reference purposes in subjects like literature, history, music and world geography in public schools, but not scientific subjects. Schools are already allowed to reference the Bible and other religious texts, but this legislation specifically mentioned the Bible.
The Legislature passed the measure in the final week of this year's session after ignoring a warning from the attorney general's office that questioned its legality.
No decision on death penalty in Charleston church shootings
CHARLESTON, S.C. (AP) — Prosecutors handling the federal case against the man charged in the shooting deaths of nine black parishioners at a Charleston, South Carolina, church say the decision on whether to pursue the death penalty is in its final stages.
Assistant U.S. Attorney Jay Richardson said Tuesday that the decision is now pending before U.S. Attorney General Loretta Lynch, who will make the determination.
Richardson and attorneys for Dylann Roof were in court to discuss updates to the case. Roof was not present, and no date for his federal trial has been set.
Roof faces nine counts of murder in state court for the killings at Emanuel AME Church. He is charged with hate crimes and other counts in federal court. The state is seeking the death penalty in Roof's state trial, which is set for July.
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The 52% of unaffiliated Scots represents a 12% jump from 16 years ago, when 40% of survey respondents said they had no religious affiliation.
The proportion of people who say they belong to the Church of Scotland — the Presbyterian Church that for so long dominated almost every aspect of life in that country — has fallen dramatically, to just 20%, down from 39% of the population in 1999.
"The survey’s findings show that Scottish commitment to religion, both in terms of our willingness to say we belong to a religion and to attend religious services, is in decline," said Ian Montagu, a researcher at ScotCen Social research in Edinburgh, which runs the annual surveys.
Montagu added that the change doesn't appear to be affecting all religions equally.
"Affiliation with the Church of Scotland is in decline while levels of identification with other religions remains relatively unchanged," he said
After the Church of Scotland, the largest Christian group is the Roman Catholic Church. Its numbers have recently been boosted by an influx of people from the European Union, particularly Poland. Read more at www.usatoday.com
Anyone not born of Jesus can be described as a living dead body, who think he has a reputation of being alive, but he is actually dead. Rev 3:1 NIV. He who has the son has life, and he who does not have the son of God does not have life. 1John 5:11-12 NIV.
When you become born again, the Holy Spirit unites you with Christ in a living union. Christ is life, and to have spiritual life in you, you must be of the Spirit. Are you born again or you just full of religious activities and zeal like of that Nicodemus? Do you know, experiencing miracles without having Jesus Christ the miracle worker in your life can not take you to God's kingdom?
The greatest miracle is not the miracle of the blind has seen. The greatest miracle is not the miracle of the Deaf has heard. The greatest miracle is not the miracle of the Lame has work. The greatest miracle is the miracle of salvation of your soul which means "Born Again" in Christ Jesus. Do you have the son of God in you? Is the Spirit Himself testifying with your Spirit that you are a child of God? Rom 8:16 NIV
Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. Until you come to him you can not have eternal life.
1.MAKE YOUR WIFE FEEL BEAUTIFUL: Let your wife feel that she is the most beautiful woman in the world, this will avoid making her feel insecure especially if she knows you are surrounded by beautiful women in your office this will definitely give her peace of mind and make her to believe that you are a disciplined man.
2.SAY I LOVE YOU: Tell your wife that you love her. This is what she loves to hear every day. This is one of way of feeling her sense of security, hearing this word will always make her happy.
3.RESPECT YOUR WIFE: Learn to respect your wife at all cost, avoid shouting at her this may even lower her self-esteem especially if you are the one bringing home the income
4.LET YOUR WIFE EXPRESS HERSELF: Wives have more work than husbands, wives take care of the kids, and lot more, if they are also working in the office this may add more to their stress. If you noticed that your wife is tired, and is about to breakdown let her vent out her feelings. Give her chance to say out some of the stress she is feeling.
5.ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES: If you made a mistakes don’t try to cover it up by arguing with your wife, she may appreciate it more if you do.
Introspection goes beyond recalling the things that happened in a day, week, or month. You need to look closely and reflect on your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and motivations. Periodically examining your experiences, the decisions you make, the relationships you have, and the things you engage in provide useful insights on your life goals, on the good traits you must sustain and the bad traits you have to discard.
Moreover, it gives you clues on how to act, react, and conduct yourself in the midst of any situation. Like any skill, introspection can be learned; all it takes is the courage and willingness to seek the truths that lie within you. Here are some pointers when you introspect: be objective, be forgiving of yourself, and focus on your areas for improvement.
Religion and science have differing views on matters of the human spirit. Religion views people as spiritual beings temporarily living on Earth, while science views the spirit as just one dimension of an individual. Mastery of the self is a recurring theme in both Christian (Western) and Islamic (Eastern) teachings.
The needs of the body are recognized but placed under the needs of the spirit. Beliefs, values, morality, rules, experiences, and good works provide the blueprint to ensure the growth of the spiritual being. In Psychology, realizing one’s full potential is to self-actualize.
Maslow identified several human needs: physiological, security, belongingness, esteem, cognitive, aesthetic, self-actualization, and self-transcendence. James earlier categorized these needs into three: material, emotional, and spiritual. When you have satisfied the basic physiological and emotional needs, spiritual or existential needs come next. Achieving each need leads to the total development of the individual.
Perhaps the difference between these two religions and psychology is the end of self-development: Christianity and Islam see that self-development is a means toward serving God, while psychology view that self-development is an end by itself.
Religions that believe in the existence of God such as Christian, Judaism, and Islam suppose that the purpose of the human life is to serve the Creator of all things. Several theories in psychology propose that we ultimately give meaning to our lives. Whether we believe that life’s meaning is pre-determined or self-directed, to grow in spirit is to realize that we do not merely exist.
We do not know the meaning of our lives at birth; but we gain knowledge and wisdom from our interactions with people and from our actions and reactions to the situations we are in. As we discover this meaning, there are certain beliefs and values that we reject and affirm. Our lives have purpose.
This purpose puts all our physical, emotional, and intellectual potentials into use; sustains us during trying times; and gives us something to look forward to---a goal to achieve, a destination to reach. A person without purpose or meaning is like a drifting ship at sea.
Growth is a process thus to grow in spirit is a day-to-day encounter. We win some, we lose some, but the important thing is that we learn, and from this knowledge, further spiritual growth is made possible.
Every one has a purpose, and there is potential in each of us. It’s just a matter to exploring and investigating a little to discover it. What terrifies you? It’s an interesting concept but what you don’t like, or what you fear may be the very thing pointing to your destiny. It’s like the concept of yin and yang- there are two sides to each coin. The fear may originate from blocking off an early passion that you were unaware of. Write a list of your fears and the negative feelings that come from them.
Then look at that list and see if there is an opposite charge to the fear. For example, if you are terrified of public speaking, but love to share your ideas, then
you may be well suited to expressing yourself through the written word. When are you scared of failing? Those things that are important to us hold a great deal of weight to how we see ourselves and our success. If you are scared at failing at something, you’ll often avoid it at all costs. But those things we are scared to fail at are often the very things we most want to do.
Explore the times you’ve said no to something, or avoided something because you’ve been scared of showing yourself to not be good at it. Who energizes you? If you’ve only got people around you who tear or wear you down and you struggle with feeling good about yourself when you are around them, then you need to change the dynamic.
What sort of people inspires you? What sort of people make you want to grab life and live it completely, who add a little light into everything. The people we are attracted to, who we want to spend time with, reflect not only where we are now, but where we want to be. Align yourself with people living a full life and their enthusiasm
rubs off and affects your own passion. Go for people you respect, and work underneath them- serving them. That is the very best way to learn. If you can’t find anyone like that around you, devour books about people you admire and learn by proxy.
When will you get there? It can be incredibly frustrating when you can see where you want to end up (and how many of us have the dream of the house on the beach, the traveling round the world) However each journey starts with one small step in front of the other. The end destination isn’t the only thing you need- you need to break it right down into manageable chunks. You may start with a small passion in something really simple that you don’t think much of, and then it explodes and evolves into something else entirely.
Enjoy that process, and trust it. The lessons we learn along the way as we explore our purpose are never wasted. If you are naturally visionary, having to wait it out sometimes can be incredibly frustrating. However learning to temper your impatience and lay it aside helps you get there faster. Remembering there is a season for everything you do helps. Who are you now?
Before you start to move forward you need to first make peace with the person you are today, right here and right now. The person you are today is the person you started to become five or ten years ago. We are all a product of our own past and the place we are in today is of our own making.
To move forward we need to accept the person we are, with all our foibles and
limitations. If you’ve got a few pounds to lose, or spend like money is going out of fashion, if you’re in a dead end job because you’ve never really used that initiative lying innate in all of us, or you are in a relationship that is more about comfort
than seeing each other move towards each other’s purpose, the only person who put you there is you.
Love yourself now; accept yourself now and where you have been, and then move on. Our purpose can begin from any circumstances. No matter what has gone before, we have the choice to change our life now, today. One person in themselves can be hugely effective. Dream big and don’t underestimate your ability to get there- many people have dreams up a purpose that on paper looked impossible, but was not only achieved but surpassed. Breathe life into those big visions.
What will I do?
Make a list of all the dreams and thoughts you’ve had – all the things you want to do in your life. Once it’s down on paper, make a plan of action to follow. Sometimes the first step is to consolidate, to regroup and spend some time learning or preparing. This is an excellent time to give your time to work under people who are working towards a similar purpose, to learn alongside them.
Don’t worry if the times get a little rough sometimes. See the difficult times are periods of growth, where you are learning the next important lessons to succeed. There is a well known Chinese proverb that says “When things are going good the
business grows, when things are going bad, you grow.” No experience is ever wasted as long as you grasp any circumstance as an opportunity to grow.
Who cares what other people do?
Your unique passion is never going to be exactly the same as someone else’s. Sure there will be elements the same, but the majority of your purpose is a custom fit for you. Just as others can’t mass produce your purpose for themselves, you can’t look at someone else’s purpose and compare your own to it in a negative light. You can only be yourself, and you can only bring your own talents and skills to your purpose.
No one will do it quite like you. And that is ok! When we start to look at how others fulfill a similar vision, we can start to make negative judgments on ourselves. Of course looking and learning in a positive way is a clever way to save a few big mistakes along the way. But when you allow fear to creep into your comparison times, your purpose suffers.
When will you get there?
Your purpose is likely to change and evolve as you do. And once you begin to grasp the sense of fun and excitement that occurs when you begin to explore your purpose you want to change and evolve with you. Get ready to go on a life long journey of discovering your purpose. To begin with your goals may be small. We can actually only conceive in our heads that which we truly believe we can possibly achieve.
If you’ve ever had a big dream thought, and really focused on it, you’ll find your mind can often place up blocks or reasons why that dream won’t be happening for you. The key is to constantly try to stretch the dream we have for our purpose.
That means we may need to rework our purpose every five to ten years. What motivates you in your twenties may not give you the same rush in your thirties or your forties. Keep a check on yourself and what you want to be living in the now- not what you wanted five years ago.
If you are reading this as a teen or young person, use your youth to your best advantage. The times we have as a single person with no huge amounts of responsibility including paying all those boring bills and having a partner are the very best times to use our time well and experience as much of life as we can.
Spend this time not only studying but learning skills in leadership, organization, and people skills through voluntary work, hobbies and generally living your life.
No matter your age, become someone who says yes to life, as then you open yourself up to opportunity. As you begin to say yes, you begin to see new ways to achieve your purpose that you may have thought were unlikely before. Never say you are to
busy to get there. As the saying goes, “If you want something done, give it to a busy person.” A person who is busy on life, not just busy on trying to wearily make it to the next bedtime actually has the time to do the things they really want to do.
We all have choices on how we spend our time. Use it well, and carefully.
How did I get here?
Being thankful every day for where you are now, and where you are going keeps your thoughts on track. If you can’t be thankful for any aspect of your life, then it is likely that you are living a life that is not consistent with the purpose you were designed for. And if you have lost that ability to be thankful, you need to
start to create it to give yourself the strength to move out of that negative situation.
Start the day with thankfulness. Before you get up in the morning say some thank yous. If you have a faith, this is like praying. However the concept works regardless- it’s just acknowledging the things in your life you love or care about. It
may be people, situations or possessions.
At the end of the day, just before bed, repeat the exercise. Then you start and end the day on a positive note. It doesn’t take a lot of time and it’s a good way to create a circle of thankfulness to set up and end your day on.
How Do You Commit to Your Purpose?
Once you have established what your purpose is, write it down.
Keep it as simple and as clear as possible. A three pager
probably indicates you are still trying to find your purpose.
Then break your purpose down. Say for instance you felt your purpose was to become a talk show host. Consider the steps you need to achieve that. What qualifications would you need? Would you need to alter your appearance at all? How would you go about lifting your profile so people know who you are and believe you can do what you do? Write these mini goals down on a piece of paper.
Read these goals aloud every morning and night, to help you stay on track. This is your personal journey and you don’t need to share it with anyone else.
Write a story that verbalizes how it feels to be living the life you achieve when you’ve followed your purpose. Write it as if you are two years from now, after you’ve achieved your goals. Think about the typical day of a person living your dream. Write it down with as much detail as you can.
This is your life story in action. Read this story aloud every day. Reading aloud helps us learn it both visually and aurally. It helps the brain accept it as fact. It also says you believe in it enough to speak it out loud. We can’t voice confidently what we
“I wake up this morning and kiss my beautiful partner as they lie sleeping. I slip into my running gear and walk down to the beach from our beachfront house and run along the expanse of sand with our puppy. The sun feels warm on my back and the sky still has an early morning golden glow to it. I walk back to the house, admiring the way the second story we got put on last year after we bought it.
I get home and discover there is a call from my agent asking for someone to interview me about the film script I just sold the rights to…”
What ever the vision, write it down. Make it as big and as detailed as possible. Then read it every morning. Next get your mind ready and questioning your motives and
goals for the day. Ask yourself the following:
What can I be grateful about right here and right now?
What makes me feel happy today?
What do I love more about myself today?
What do I love more about the people in my life today?
What are three actions I will take today to see my goals comeinto being? (This can be anything from putting your papers in order, to making phone calls, to writing something down. Our baby steps can walk us a long way is we do it every day.)
Once you’ve answered your questions, face yourself in a mirror and tell yourself you love yourself. If you have body image problems, allow yourself to love the parts of you that you find fault with. We need to love both the person we are now, and the
person we are becoming.
We cannot expect someone else to love us if we have not first to
To keep yourself going and focused throughout all the day, create a list of “I am” statements that speak of who you are and who you want to be. These are our live mantras, the eons that help us to walk confidently on the path we want to follow.
These may include comments such as “I am a light”, “I am fit and healthy”, “I am able to speak confidently”, “I am worth of all that I dream and hope for.”
Remind yourself of your purpose every day. Remind yourself of what is important to you. Ask yourself what the world needs more of everyday. Ask yourself how you want to be remembered. Write these questions down in your car, or at your desk. Asking ourselves questions, then answering them allows us to more deeply process the truth of the goal.
The old adage what goes in must come out fits well with living out your purpose. Listen and watch things that motivate you. Spend time with people who stimulate you each and everyday. Limit your time with people who make you feel bad or tear you down.
As you begin to succeed and find yourself covering all your mortgages, loan repayments and expenses, tax yourself and place ten percent of your net earnings in an account. This money is meant to be used to invest in anything that will move you
closer to your dream. Take another ten percent net and give it away. This reminds us
to be grateful for the things we have and the things we are still to receive. It also helps us become focused on wealth generation just for the purpose of more wealth.
If you haven’t yet got to the stage where you have money `enough to give, find other ways you can give out of what you have. Clear your cupboards and give your excess possessions away. Make a cake or offer some time to someone else who needs it. Find some way to give out of what you already have and see how your world begins to open up before you.
Why is This So Important?
Your ability to get to where you want to be, to live a life of purpose is in direct proportion to your ability to exercise mind control. The ideas and activities in this report help your mind lock in the purpose you are heading to. It helps you to place
your goals inside your subconscious, and then the process becomes a lot easier.
The ability to harness your mind and control your thought processes is one that successful people through the ages have used. It’s the common denominator of all successful people whether they are business owners or world class athletes.
Research in the ability to drive past our own concept of limiting belief has shown that if we get the mind on track, the rest will follow.
One study by Australian psychologist Allen Richardson showed that when basketball players were asked to not practice but to just mentally rehearse a successful shooting practice for twenty minutes a day they were as successful as the control group who had actually physically practiced their shooting every day for twenty minutes.
Other research has shown creative visualization and other mind control techniques such as using mantras and positive thinking have been able to being healing to the body, pushing back the effects of even terminal illnesses such as cancer. These patients still would use medicine but found the image of them coming out as victorious in their battle with the illness proved to be a turning point in their victory.
Many people believe that when we being to take control of our own minds and focus on our goals we affect the environment we live in. Exciting things being to happen with doors that seemed so heavily wedged shut opening, or new opportunities springing out of nowhere. These are situations that begin to work in your
favour once you get your focus right.
Research from both Princeton and Stanford universities showed there was evidence that people can influence other’s thoughts using creative visualization. Though this has only shown to work with the effects of random statistical experimentation such
as effecting random number generation and the rolling of dice to a particular number, it does indicate there is a scientific basis in the belief that you can alter the course around you by your thoughts.
While there is no proven research, the plethora of anecdotal evidence does show that your thoughts affect your outcome. Even at the very worst, a more positive attitude is likely to help you become more open to opportunity and be more on the look out for new ideas and opening doors.
Turn your life into the life you want by discovering the purpose you were born to live and then change the way you think of yourself living that life to get there. Remember the place you are now is the place you got to by the thoughts you’ve already had-
even if it was not a conscious decision.
Start to take your future place in this world into both your conscious and
subconscious mind, learning to turn around and more ahead to reach your purpose. It won’t take long to enjoy the fruits of your endeavors.
Devil accused the high priest Joshua in Zechariah 3, who here represents the nation of Israel of adorning filthy cloths. But God in his mercy rebook Devil and declared Israel not guilty.
God’s solution that is available for us all regardless of our past sin or background is justification. Devil might have been hunting you as a result of your past, making you to carry burden of guilty in your heart. I want to tell you, there is hope for you in Christ only if you believe.
Justification is being declared righteous and is the judicial act of God, in which the sins of all those who believe in Christ Jesus has been forgiven by God. This simply means, the justified person has complied with all the law’s demands, all the claims and expectations of the law are satisfied in respect of the justified person.
And now, the justified person is declared to be entitled to all the advantages and rewards arising from perfect obedience to the law. It means acceptance and an entitlement to all the blessings promised to the just.
Also, to be justified simply means to be declared not guilty. When a judge in a court of Law declares the accused not guilty, all the charges against the accused person are instantly dropped, it’s like the accused person has never commit any crime before.
Our accessibility to God becomes confidence because, we rely on Christ’s perfect life to make us right with God and not our record, and that makes us to have a bold and confident entrance into God’s presence. Rom 5:1-2.
Our boldness is because of Christ’s shed blood on our behalf, not our own merit or works. Eph 3:12 says, “in whom we have boldness and access with confidence through faith in Him.”
Justification is God’s declaring those who accept Christ lordship to be righteous based on Christ righteousness being imputed in them. The sinner is divinely declared innocent. Whenever Devil accuses us, Jesus, our advocate always stand at God’s right hand to defend our course. You don’t need to continue carry the burden of your sins anymore. Surrender your life to the Lord Jesus and receive God’s Justification by faith.
Wednesday, 6 April 2016
What does it really mean when our kids are listening? It means they are cooperating and being responsible—two very important habits to help our kids master for future success. Parenting that kids can understand teaches habits they will carry for a lifetime, and it will help you and the entire family get along (including you and your spouse!)
I recently wrote an article on what makes kids brains grow bigger which shows that when parents express love to their children through effective and nurturing communication, they become happier and more well-adjusted. Positive parenting without bargaining, yelling, or intimidation will help you develop nurturing communication. Keep reading to learn 8, easy parenting hacks that will teach valuable life lessons.
1. Be a great teacher.
A great teacher takes a hand, opens a mind, and touches a heart. We must be truly honest with ourselves that our role as parents is being the most important teacher your child will ever have. As parents, we are the guardrails in our childrens’ lives, perfectly positioned to keep the car on track. Surely the car will veer off plenty of times on its journey.
Accepting that our children will make mistakes rather than expecting them to be perfect is half the battle in embracing your honorary role as teacher of the year. Learning to tolerate imperfection does not mean sacrificing values; it just means to apply a bit of patience and understanding while your child comes into her own. Compassionate parenting builds and maintains healthy parent-child bonds and supports that all important brain growth that can change the world.
2. Create house rules.
Enlist your entire family in creating a list of house rules that are easy to understand. Mutually agreed upon expectations gives your family the basis of understanding it needs to create respect between one another. It also makes parenting a heck of a lot easier when everyone is on the same page. A family meeting where rules are brainstormed and agreed upon allows everyone to practice important communication and teamwork skills like speaking in turn, listening, and contributing.
Be sure to select rules which the whole family, including adults, will follow. The single most important aspect in creating respect is that we as adults(parents) should model the behavior that is being asked of our children. Lastly, rules should be limited to 4 or 5 and be phrased in a way that states how you want the behavior to look. For instance; “We will speak kindly to those we love” rather than “Don’t talk back.”
3. Establish clear consequences.
Successful parenting requires a few steps so that the behavior and/or lesson you are trying to teach actually sticks. Consistency with consequences is a way for parents to allow kids to practice the desired behavior. If they don’t get it right the first time, try and try again! Consequences need to fit the offense, so while sitting down to create the house rules it is helpful to get together with your spouse to determine agreed upon consequences for when the rule is broken.
If you want, the kids can even weigh in; they usually pick consequences that are more punitive than necessary so it is interesting to get their perspective. This approach establishes communication and cooperation between parents. It also irons out disagreements that often happen when Mom and Dad bicker over how to handle the infraction as it’s happening, which takes the focus off of the negative behavior. Kids love this as they quietly slip away unnoticed while mom and dad attempt to hash it out.
4. Count to three.
One of my favorite parenting gurus is Thomas W. Phelen; he wrote 1-2-3 Magic and it was one of the first and most effective parenting approaches my husband and I used as new parents. Among many other concepts, Phelen introduced the importance of giving children a measured warning system when their behavior is annoying, obnoxious, or unacceptable. Children are not little adults, and they are not born knowing how to act. In fact, it is our job as parents to teach them what we expect from them.
As mentioned before, when this is done in a way that is nurturing and supportive, the parenting process supports brain growth in the way of problem solving and emotional regulation. Once you notice a behavior from your child that is annoying, obnoxious, and/or unacceptable, you simply state (without yelling) what it is that you would like your child to do instead. If he/she does not comply with your request in a few seconds, you begin to count, using a firm tone of voice, eye contact, a visual prompt (holding your fingers up to coordinate with the number), and pausing in between numbers to monitor response. What happens at 3? A consequence for not favorably complying to your request.
Read more at www.lifehack.com
If you’re married, you know it’s hard work to keep your marriage good. Everyday life can make it feel so much harder to be happy together. On an average day, you need to get up, eat, shower, dress and you’re off to work. When you get back you eat and chill and go to bed. There is no special time to spend with your spouse.
So how do you keep your marriage alive besides your everyday routine? Surprises! When you have a spare moment, surprise your husband. It will make him feel like you think about him, even when he isn’t around. It may even make him fall in love with you a little more.
You probably feel like you won’t have the time or money to get a complete surprise ready. That’s why I made a list of 15 awesome surprises! You don’t need a big budget or a lot of time. No matter what you have available, you can make your hubby jump with joy!
1. Write a Note
Really? Writing a note? That sound boring! But trust me, it’s not. Take some paper, maybe even in color, and a pen, preferably red, and write that note. Make it as romantic or sexy as you can. Put it somewhere he looks every day, like his wallet or the pocket of his pants and let the magic happen.
2. Chore Date
What do chores and dates have in common? Not much. But… Imagine telling your man he needs to get you some milk from the store after work. He goes to the store and walks into you! And what do you have? Tickets to that movie/game he wanted to go to! Now that’s a good surprise.
3. King’s Day
I’m not saying you should be a slave, but give him a day of everything he wants. Write down a list of things he would love to do or eat or see and do it. Try to do as many things as possible off that list. You enjoy when he helps you out, so he will surely enjoy a day for him.
4. Try His Hobby
Your man probably has a hobby that you’re not very keen on. For example, my husband loves gaming. Now it is not my kind of entertainment, but to everyone his own. Most of the time when he does it, I’m doing my own thing. So for this surprise, try his hobby. Go with him and do it together. Try to see what he likes about it. It may not be your cup of tea but he will appreciate your effort.
5. Lunch Break
Simply put, go to his workplace and surprise him for lunch. You can keep it simple and just make a delicious lunch at home, or you can fancy it up and take him out. It’s up to you!
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If you are going through a challenging period of time in your life, these quotes will help give you the inspiration that you need to get through these times. Life isn’t always going to be sunshine and sometimes it can pour really hard and leave you feeling hopeless at the end of the day. Sometimes you’ll fall and not know how to get back up. It doesn’t matter how many times you try to get back up or how graceful it is but the fact that you are trying your best should be enough. Always try your best and let those quotes be a reminder of how every challenge really is a blessing in disguise and that you will come back out stronger than ever. Read more at www.lifehack.org
Tuesday, 5 April 2016
seem to fall on their feet.
However for many people, it takes a sharp change, a crystal clear moment or a long journey of learning to find that same direction. It can be learnt, and you can discover it by spending some time investigating your own history. If you want to succeed in life, you first must find your passion, then harness it and use it to focus your dreams and vision.
The more you follow the path your passion leads you down, the more you achieve the goals you desire, and your life starts to fall into place. A person without passion can not change for they have no motivation to change.
While not everything we do is directly related to our passion (It’s hard to explain the link of doing the dishes with merchant banking for example) If we are assured in our passion, we do all those extra tasks a bit more gladly, knowing that passion will drive us through those bits we find hard and less enjoyable.
That is one of the secrets of living a life where you meet your full potential. While you’ll still need to do something every now and again that may not be enjoyable, the hope for the passion growing for the thing you love will help carry you through. One of the best parts of living a life of where you develop your own potential is its infectious. People want to be around someone with direction.
It’s like a contagious drug. You finding your passion and purpose will affect everyone else in your life- without you even planning on it. A life without purpose is a life without richness, depth and reason. However you need to direct the purpose to ensure your dreams are realized. There is little point in investing the time and effort into discovering what you want to do, see or experience if you then do nothing with it.
Whatever you have now, in whatever amount you hold in your hands will only increase the more you use it. We have a chance to write our own life stories into something that others will want to follow and look to. But it doesn’t happen just by dreaming- you need to act as well. If you want to impact others, you’ll do so by demonstrating your purpose by living a passionate life. The key is to be as specific as you can about what your actual purpose is.
For example many entrepreneurs think their purpose or passion is to become rich, when in fact it is to initiate, develop and create new ideas. The wealth is just one of the measurements of that success. Find what it is that expressly drives you and there you have your chief purpose. For instance, though you may want a lot of money- ask yourself why that its.
Is your chief goal to create a museum of your belongings? Is it to provide for your family? Or is it to have the freedom to spend your life serving a cause you
believe in? All of these indicate a vastly different purpose, even if all require a large sum of money. Making money on its own is unlikely to be your main passion
though for some it could be.
However having money may help you to reach your goals and live your purpose so the drive to acquire money may be motivated by your purpose. It may be enough for you to choose to spend time at work for a longer day than otherwise or occasion or take a second job or start your own business, but it isn’t your chief motivator- it’s your end purpose that’s driving you instead.
If we lose track of our purpose, and get caught in the treadmill of life, it is at that point that we risk burning ourselves out and start looking at ways that are not aligned with our central purpose to get us out of horrible and unrewarding situations. This is our life, right here and right now.
It’s the live we’ve been given, and then created with our own actions and accidents. But no matter what has brought us to this point, as we look forward we have so many options right here and right now to change and make a life lived with purpose and drive. It can start today.
If we don’t do that, if we continue to ignore our purpose, or never seek it out, then every day a small part of us, the part that gives us hope and laughter and joy, that part dies. It’s a pretty high cost when you see it in that light. If your purpose seems completely unrelated to making money don’t worry at all! Finding purpose isn’t just about finding wealth.
Matt was in a successful position as a banker. He was rising through the chain, and he was finding some success. But he was unhappy. He spent some time looking at what he wanted to follow for his purpose and shocked everyone when he went for a pretty major career change.
He’s now working as an orderly at a local hospital while we studies to become a nurse. He’s found that the purpose he wanted to live for most was to work
alongside people suffering from chronic illness and shut away in hospital rooms.
It might not pay as well, but he managed to pick up a fair few tips during his banking times so the investments are going well, and he’s waking every morning happy to go to work.
He’s living life according to the purpose he was created for. Not everyone is wired to make money as part of their purpose. Whatever your purpose, it may not be the same as anyone else in your family or among your friends. This is about what you want to do, what you want to achieve. Allow yourself to dream your own dreams at reach your own goals.
Are the dreams you have any better or worse than another’s” No. All each of us should do is live our live by the purpose we hold deep inside us. Imagine how different the world would be if that was what everyone did. What an exciting a fulfilling way to live.
Our mind can work with us and for us to help us reach our goals. Once we unlock the keys our mind holds, we have the opportunity to do the following:
* Learn to override the fears of failure and not being good enough. To let go of social phobias and the hold of limiting beliefs.
* Discover the talents and gifts we were given and how we can develop them.
* Learn how to spot new opportunities to develop personal growth and learn new skills.
* Set goals you had always thought were the goals of dreamers, and then meet those goals.
* Develop a strong sense of purpose and direction. Learn the value of your life in this world and what a difference your new life can make.
* Become someone who loves to face a challenge and then meet it, and overcome it. You’ll discover the fun in conquering the mountains of challenge in your own life and not taking the status quo as an acceptable standard anymore.
* Learn the benefits of a balanced life where your physical, emotional, spiritual and financial health lives in harmony with each other and you feel fulfilled and satisfied with your life.
* No longer be someone ever happy to be just comfortable. You’ll instead want to live in the zone of the outrageous, fulfilled and achieved.
By investing in time to unlock your own potential, you have the opportunity to discover all that you were created to be. Part of that process is identifying what your purpose is. To do that you need to first look at what makes you feel passionate.
A life lived with passion is a life lived fully.
Discover Your Full Potential: No matter what innate talents you were born with, what family you were born into, the money you have made or lost, or the times of difficulty or lucky breaks, nothing will get you to where you want to be better than understanding your full potential.
Each one of us has potential lying innate inside of us. The brilliant part is each one of us has a potential that is uniquely ours. It’s a mad mix of our genetics, our environment, the way our body has been designed and the talents we were born with. Ach one of us has something different, some gift t impart to this
Of course, the first step is discovering just what that is. For some this is an instinctive process, often helped by a watchful parent or teacher that spotted something in us from an early age and called it into being.
For others, it’s a struggle to identify. That can be for a range of reasons. We often have an instinct inkling of what we want to do as young children. This can be torn from us or pushed down by parental disapproval or expectations that don’t match our own natural talents.
For instance you may have been created as a creativeperson who loves to put colours and designs together, but come from a long line of successful accountants and business owners. There may be an expectation that you’ll be working in business as you become an adult.
Environment can also play a part. We often learn about what we are good at through trying new things. If you lived in an area where there weren’t a lot of options, or you didn’t have a lot of money to pay for classes or for travel, then you may have not
experienced the things you are naturally good at.
Sometimes our very ambition, mixed with false belief can get in the way. Michael was a talented and creative designer who loved to put concepts together. However he was raised in a poor family and had experienced that embarrassing feeling of frequently being the only kid in his class without cool shoes, or the latest gadget.
While he loved design he felt it couldn’t make him money so he went for more traditional methods such as finance and accounting. No matter how hard he stuck at it he found himself stressed, unhappy and even worse, and poor as he
couldn’t seem to climb up the ladder to success.
Finally in desperation Michael started to do some designing for friends on the side just to keep himself sane. At first it was a free thing, but as his designs were shown to others, people started to ask to pay him. He discovered that you could actually be doing something you loved AND get paid for it. He just wishes he’s known that a lot earlier.
Our potential can also be cut short by circumstance. If you are struggling to meet bills every week, and you have a family to support or other responsibilities, it can be difficult to see your way out of it to unlock that missing key and find success in the
things you were born to do.
Whatever the reason or reasons that have brought you to want to unlock your potential, the most important thing from here on in is that none of that has to matter. For every time you’ve struggled and stressed that you’ll never find your passion and
then be able to use it, there is a person who has learnt to. And if they can do it, well you can too.
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Saturday, 2 April 2016
It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.
With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try the following tips I prepared!
Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Believe in your self, and in what you can do.
Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides. Don’t give in and don’t give up. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.
Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.
Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.
Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self-improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.
Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force. Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.
Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone. Keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self-improvement.
Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy? Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes. Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game. Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.
Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes. Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?
Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark. Take control of your life.
Discipline or self control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement. Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.
Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land. Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement. X Factor is what will make you different from the others.
When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on. You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.
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So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self-esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a start guide to self-improvement.Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
1. Negative Work Environment: Beware of "dog eat dog" theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self-esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
2. Negative World View: Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
3. Past Experience: It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
4. Determination Theory: The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self-esteem and drawing lines for self-improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you "Joshua, you may now have the permission to build self-esteem and improve your self.”
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Remember watching Patch Adams? It’s one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward. His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people.
Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still want to become a doctor.
He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self-improvement and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known.
So, when does self-improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips:
1. Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept yourself?
2. When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.
3. The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self-improvement.
4. Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self-improvement is a one day at a time process.
5. Self-improvement results to inner stability, personality development and SUCCESS. It comes from self-confidence, self appreciation and self-esteem.
6. Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.
7. When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self-improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self-improvement.
We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for.
A very nice quote says that, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self-improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.
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The silence is within that part of yourself that No One Knows, where you may encounter the true purpose of your life and what you need do to achieve it. In the silence, you recharge your batteries, remove tension and anxiety, reduce stress and fatigue, eliminate doubt and depression, and remove enculturation programming. It gives you a sense of belonging. You become one with the universe and all of humanity, and you know peace.
When you are separated from the silence, you see doubts, your see problems, and you feel the negative surround you. There are no problems, doubts or negative in the silence. It moves you away from this outer world and all its perceived troubles, connecting you back to your original source of spirit.
This silence is located in the space between your thoughts. To reach it, you must quiet your thoughts. You must quiet your mind and know stillness. Then, you merge with it.
Quiet your mind, be at peace, and connect. Take a walk in the woods or a quiet park. Listen to the sounds of nature. Breathe deeply of the fresh air. Hear the birds chirping, the leaves rustling under foot, and the sound and smell of the breeze as it brushes past your face. Walk barefoot in the grass. Stretch your arms out wide and slowly turn, feeling the freedom.
Feel the different textures of nature — the bark of a tree, the silky feel of a flower petal, the soft fur of a kitten, the bristles from the blades of grass against you palm, and all that nature offers your senses. As you focus on hearing and feeling nature, you will find peace. While you’re alone, speak to the universe — in your mind through your thoughts or out loud, depending upon your comfort level. Speak as if you’re speaking to a friend. Tell this friend your problems and desires. Then, let the universe take care of them.
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