Stress Management

Managing stress adequately would require the need to first be able to identify the main causes of the presence of stress within the confines of the individual’s life. When this has been identified then the relevant steps can be taken to address the stress inducing circumstances.

Some of the more common signs of stress are

nervousness, withdrawal, constant tiredness, frequent headaches, increased use of alcohol, smoking and other unhealthy habits, an unexpected loss or increase in the diet intake or body weight, restless sleep and irrational emotional outbursts and behavior patterns.

There are all indications of an individual suffering from high level of stress. In recent times, the stress levels of most people have been so alarming, that more often than not, hospitalization has to be recommended, where complete rest and medication is prescribed to normalize the body systems. 

Research has also been able to show thatlifeexpectancies have reduced drastically due to the presence of stress.

Therefore, the idea behind managing the stress is all about gaining control over the stress which should be to identify and address the possible causes of the stress, and then work towards ways to overcome it effectively.

Once the symptoms can be identified and linked to stress condition, then the proper approach can be matched to the symptoms to improve the situation. This would require the individual to have a clear plan drawn up which would be based of combating the stress occurrences with very practical and proven methods.

These methods may include the use of a proper diet, exercise or the actual physical change of environment. Being able to focus on a holistic view of the situation that causes the stress rather the one particular action that triggers it, will help the individual better understand and seek ways to avoid or improve on the circumstances that spark the onset of stress.

Relationship Counselling

Marriage is not something that should be taken lightly and this is even more so when there are signs within the relationship that signify some level of trouble brewing. Most people try to take the necessary steps to save the marriage before throwing in the towel or raising the white flag in defeat.

Every marriage is worth saving, and it would certainly be worth the effort to try and salvage what was once something beautiful and wonderful. This is even more important of an exercise if there are children involved. The following are some ways to explore if both parties are really interested in making an attempt to save the marriage:

• Set aside some time to talk about things that have caused the marriage to lose its luster. This may not be easy to do without outside help such as a support group or counseling sessions. Attempting to do so without guidance may cause the couple to get into an argument or worse, into a fighting match where unfounded accusations will make the situation even worse.

• Genuinely seeking another chance to make the marriage work is another option to explore in the quest towards saving the marriage. Sometimes asking for another chance and then taking all the necessary steps to ensure genuine effort is made will help both parties view the marriage in a different light. Active participation towards theend goal of saving the marriage will require commitment and perseverance. 

• Some people may decide to make physical life changing decisions in order to prove their sincerity toward wanting to save the marriage. These may include changing jobs, relocating to a quieter neighborhood to create a better quality of life or even new activities.

There really is not a point in giving up on a marriage and wasting many years and much effort. As long as there is still love in the picture there is still a chance of fixing things right.

Love & Respect

There is no Love without Respect

Making a spouse feel important and loved in a relationship will definitely benefit both parties as the effort made will not go unnoticed for long. Making someone feel important is not only a delightful way of expressing love and respect for the person, but is also another way of cherishing the loved one.

Love and Respect: Happily married couples will almost always attest to the fact that treating each other with respect and love goes a long way in keeping the relationship strong and being able to stand the test of
time.

Besides the more obvious reason such as love and respect for the spouse, this treatment will also show the level of value the individual puts on the existence of the
spouse within the context of the relationship. It will also be a very naturalcorresponding action to return from the receiving party, thus making the relationship even stronger and longer lasting.Put Your Spouse On The Top Of The List

The more popular way of extending the attitude of putting the spouse foremost in thought and deed would be to always consult the spouse when important decision are to be made that would affect each other. 

Others may include finding ways to keep the spouse happy and contented within the relationship, by making a conscious effort to indulge in or arrange for activities that would make the spouse feel special and loved and even buying small gifts for no particular reason,except to express love.

Simple acts that don’t cause a lot of work or money such as opening a door or pulling out a chair for the spouse will go a long way in making the spouse feel special and loved. Always choosing to spend quality time with the spouse whenever the opportunity presents itself is also one way of putting the spouse on the top of the list.

Keep Yourself In Good Shape Physically And Mentally

During the dating stages, everyone usually goes the extra mile to appear appealing and at their best. However sadly, this is not so when the couple become comfortable with each other and are already in the relationship for some time. Experts on the subject strongly suggest not letting one’s physical appearance be neglected. This is also true when it comes to the mental growth of the individual in a committed

relationship.

People don’t seem to understand the importance of keeping up on both these fronts. Neither party will be interested in coming home to a relationship where there is no effort put into keeping each other excited and guessing. 

Boredom will usually be the result of such disinterest and this will eventually force both parties to seek excitement outside the existing relationship. There is always the 

danger of the stay at home partner being the one that eventually allows the mental and physical appearance to go downhill. 

Some people just don’t seem to understand the impact made on each other when there is a total lack of interest in the general upkeep, both mentally and physically. This is especially so when there are so many temptations outside the marriage

perimeter, this often reminds the straying party of exactly what they are missing out on. 

This is often also one of the main reasons why there is infidelity and discord within 

a relationship that has been in existence for quite some time. Busy schedules and commitments are often the excuses given for the lack of focus on keeping oneself in the best of conditions, both mentally and physically. If both parties don’t make a concerted effort to look good for each other, it certainly gives the impression of not valuing the relationship enough.

Simple Ways To Show You Care

When it comes to keeping any relationship alive and exciting, there is usually the need to spice up things occasionally. This can be done through the use of love letters or perhaps going on date nights, today technology has taken over the world and you can keep your relationship working by occasionally text a love message that will keep your marriage alive with your spouse .

In the initial stages of the new relationship, these two activities are very much in dulged in and even expected. However, sadly, as the relationship progresses to a more familiar phase, both parties may start taking each other for granted and one of the most popular ways of the perception becoming evident within the relationship is the lack of love letters and date nights.

Most people make the mistake of thinking that such indulgences are no longer needed or necessary, thus falling into the rather boring routine that will eventually lead to the relationship getting into troubled waters.

Couples who fail to continue these activates as the relationship progresses, risk being taken for granted, and when outside opportunities present themselves, there is always the possibility of being tempted to indulge in these temptations as they will find ways to justify such indulgences.

Therefore, in the quest to not only keep the relationship as exciting as first perceived, the couple should continue the exchange of love letters and date nights to also ensure there are no temptations to seek such activities elsewhere.

Being active in the activities will also allow the couple to look forward to these endearing times and also ensure both parties are constantly committed to putting their “best foot forward” at all times. This would include both the physical and mental aspects within the relationship.

Schedule Time Together with your Spouse

In order for a relationship to work, both parties must be equally committed to the idea of making the relationship work as best as possible. This includes exploring ways to spend time with each other without the need to be forced into doing so.

Making an effort to spend time together is very important if the couple intends to grow the relationship and to keep it happy and healthy for a long time to come.

Without the effort to spend quality time together, the couple may find themselves eventually drifting apart and this may even lead to the eventual possibility of divorce. It is especially important to make time for each other, especially if both
parties live very active and hectic professional lives.

When this happens, it becomes very easy to use work and other distractions as
an excuse to not make time for each other. This or course is a very bad habit to have surface during a relationship.The following are some recommendations on how to create the ideal platform for spending quality time together to keep the relationship
current and strong:

• Before the relationship actually gets to the present stage, both parties will have done things together that were enjoyable enough for them to consider taking the next step in establishing a relationship. Therefore, making the effort to continue to indulge in these same activities will be beneficial to the relationship.

• Finding new things to do together that both parties will enjoy is another good way to create the opportunity to spend some time together as a couple. These new activities should ideally be the kind that both parties will enjoy, however sometimes it may be necessary to indulge in something that only one of the partners really enjoy.

Relationship Basics

One of the main reasons for problems arising within the marriage relationship is the element of incompatibility. Once the initial excitement of the new relationship wears out, the couple soon finds themselves locked in a situation where they share nothing in common. This can be something positive if handled well, but it usually ends up bringing a lot of negativity into the equation and this eventually leads to the breakup of the marriage.

In order to be able to ensure the relationship has a better chance of survival; both parties should question their roles and perceptions linked to the relationship. You
should discuss compatibility, understanding, cooperation, similar hobbies, types of interests, points of disagreements and joy and any other elements that would dictate
the kind of participation either party will extend towards the relationship.

When it comes to the negative aspect within the relationship, both parties should be acutely aware of how these situations are tackled and the duration the negativity is present until there is some resolution in sight. There will also be a need to examine
how these resolutions are sought and incorporated for the aim of getting the relationship back on track.

These questions are well worth exploring within the beginnings of the relationship as this is helpful in dictating the eventual course the relationship will take. It is also be a good way to gauge the potential for pursuing this particular relationship and what the eventual goals expected are.

Laodicean Church

Laodicea History: Laodicea city is situated on the long spur of a hill between the narrow of the small river Asopus and Caprus which discharge their waters into the Lycus.

In 220BC, Laodicea began to acquire a high degree of prosperity in the city. History confirmed Laodicea to be one of the most important and flourishing commercial city in the world, in which large money transactions and extensive trade in black wool were carried on. It is one of the cities in the world where coins were first minted.

The Church of Laodicea is the last of seven churches addressed in the book of revelation. Christian in Laodicea was described as a lukewarm Christians because they were neither “HOT” nor “COLD” in discharging their service for God.

"I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot. I could wish you were cold or hot. Because you are lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, will I vomit you out of my mouth". Rev. 3: 15-16

“I could wish you were cold or hot” in view of this statement, it has been that Laodicean Christians were been criticized for their neutrality of lack of zeal for the work of Christ. Christ desire that they be either zealous (HOT) for him or completely uncommitted (COLD) but not to be in-between as in-between stands to pollute the pure representations of the faith and create misconceptions about the Church and its ideals.

Jesus called them the most wretched people despite all their money and wealth they acquired.

They were physically rich but spiritually poor.

Because you say; “I am rich, have become wealthy, and have need of nothing” and do not know that you are wretched, poor, blind and naked. Rev 3: 17

Now, relating Laodicean Christian attitude in today’s Church. Today’s Church has become a place where anything goes; people are no more ready to do the will of God in the Church, but their own will. The truth has lost, the Alter has been polluted, God is no more seen at the Centre of the Church, and men are now seen in position of God ruling.

Hypocrisy, backbiting and eye service has become normal in today’s Church. The salvation of souls is no more important, alter call in today’s Church has become unnecessary; prayer is like a waste of time. Pastors are been given shortest time to preach the word of God on Sunday, if he spend more time, it will remain himself and his family to share the benediction.

But this same people can go to a party and spent more than 12 hrs. dining and wining, and they will never be tired. This same people can attend a meeting for 5hrs without complaining. But to spend 2hrs before the Lord on Sunday becomes a problem, because the Church has entered into the world and the world has entered into the Church.

Church is no more hunger for the gift of the Holy Spirit, everything is all about pleasure. The raw or undiluted word of God is not coming from the Alter anymore. The message of wealth and prosperity has taken over the pulpit. Christians are no more remembering the message of the second coming of Jesus Christ.

85% percent of people in today’s Church are not living according to the Bible standard. Those who care to be following the standard will be seen as too holy or over righteous because they are minority in the Church and there is little they can do.

Ask those who say they love God, are they doing the work of God because of God or because of their own personal gain, the money and position they are so desperate about to take in the house of God? If you want to know, stop their allowances and see if they will not angrily leave the Church and never return.

Now who is fooling who? Remember, God cannot be mocked; whatever a man sow shall he reap.

Today, we see, we hear and do what God is not pleased with; and we care not of the repercussions. Let us not jump pass the truth or ignore it when it's found, declared and received. Let us not be surprised, God warned us many times in the Scripture to... Be shepherds of the Church of God, which He bought with His own blood and those with itching ears, wanting to hear what they are eager to hear or what will pleases them. 2 Timothy 4:3-4.

In conclusion, the moral remedy to all these decadence is true repentance for all. It's not enough to be a preacher or a Christian, but appropriate repentance is the gateway for a right living, for a right Church and hopefully, for eternity.