Motivation: The Heart of Self-Improvemen

Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments.
             
It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try the following tips I prepared!

Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Believe in your self, and in what you can do.

Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides. Don’t give in and don’t give up. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.

Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

 Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.
Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self-improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.

 Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force. Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone. Keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self-improvement.
 
Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy? Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.   Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game. Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.

Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes. Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?

Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark. Take control of your life.

Discipline or self control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement. Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.

Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land. Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement. X Factor is what will make you different from the others.

When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.   You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

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Building Your Self-Esteem

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self-esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a start guide to self-improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
                                                                                             
1. Negative Work Environment: Beware of "dog eat dog" theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self-esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

2. Negative World View: Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

3. Past Experience: It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.

4. Determination Theory: The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self-esteem and drawing lines for self-improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you "Joshua, you may now have the permission to build self-esteem and improve your self.”

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Self-improvement & Success – Hand in Hand

Everything that happens to us happens in purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self-improvement and success.  

Remember watching Patch Adams? It’s one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward. His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people.                  
                                                               
Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still want to become a doctor.

He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self-improvement and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known.

So, when does self-improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips:

1. Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept yourself?

2. When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

3. The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self-improvement.

4. Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self-improvement is a one day at a time process.

5. Self-improvement results to inner stability, personality development and SUCCESS. It comes from self-confidence, self appreciation and self-esteem.

6. Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.

7. When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self-improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self-improvement.                    

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for.

A very nice quote says that, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self-improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.

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Silence Your Mind

The world of silence it’s a place to explore who you truly are, to create, and to connect to the universe. In the silence, you connect to love. In the silence, you access the power of the universe. It clears your mind and gives you extraordinary ideas, allowing success to flow freely.

The silence is within that part of yourself that No One Knows, where you may encounter the true purpose of your life and what you need do to achieve it. In the silence, you recharge your batteries, remove tension and anxiety, reduce stress and fatigue, eliminate doubt and depression, and remove enculturation programming. It gives you a sense of belonging. You become one with the universe and all of humanity, and you know peace.

When you are separated from the silence, you see doubts, your see problems, and you feel the negative surround you.  There are no problems, doubts or negative in the silence. It moves you away from this outer world and all its perceived troubles, connecting you back to your original source of spirit.

This silence is located in the space between your thoughts.  To reach it, you must quiet your thoughts. You must quiet your mind and know stillness. Then, you merge with it.

Quiet your mind, be at peace, and connect. Take a walk in the woods or a quiet park. Listen to the sounds of nature. Breathe deeply of the fresh air. Hear the birds chirping, the leaves rustling under foot, and the sound and smell of the breeze as it brushes past your face. Walk barefoot in the grass. Stretch your arms out wide and slowly turn, feeling the freedom.

Feel the different textures of nature — the bark of a tree, the silky feel of a flower petal, the soft fur of a kitten, the bristles from the blades of grass against you palm, and all that nature offers your senses. As you focus on hearing and feeling nature, you will find peace. While you’re alone, speak to the universe — in your mind through your thoughts or out loud, depending upon your comfort level.  Speak as if you’re speaking to a friend. Tell this friend your problems and desires. Then, let the universe take care of them.

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Become Better Husband

A marital problem start when a wife feels neglected and taken for granted by her husband, the man should be more sensitive to the needs of his wife. If you are one of the husband that don’t care to notice that your wife is not happy anymore, I think this video is for you to watch and understand. 
Enjoy it.

Character & Integrity

Two major components of your own personal excellence are character and integrity. Character refers to the traits that determine who you are at a core level. Integrity reveals the values you live your life by. Character is often said to be “what you do when you think no one is watching”.  What a revealing little statement that is!  Most of us have done things we’re not proud of; things we hope don’t come back to haunt us later.

These events usually take place in our younger years, when we’re still trying to figure out who we are. Once we know who we are (or decide who we want to be), we begin to understand that we are largely a product of our actions. Positive actions make us a “good person,” and a valuable member of society. Negative actions reveal a cruel, selfish or undeveloped character.Your character will directly affect your personal excellence in powerful ways.

How?  If excellence is all about throwing your whole self into whatever you do, shouldn’t your “whole self” be a person of great value?

Remember, your character is determined by your actions.  If you consistently cheat, steal and lie to others, your inner self is diminished and therefore largely ineffective.  On the other hand, if you strive to serve others, contribute something of value to others and the world, your inner self will grow and expand into something far more pervasive than you can imagine.

Then, when you throw your whole self into whatever you do, you are throwing a “bigger and better self” into the process, and your results will be that much more powerful.

Here’s how to build your character in life-changing ways:

Be the best “YOU” that you can be.  Don’t try to emulate others, but instead look within and bring out the very best parts of yourself that are unique and special.

Strengthen and develop the best parts of yourself until they are all-pervasive.  Let them take over your personality, your work, your relationships – and every aspect of your life.  Let them become the largest parts of yourself.

Share the best parts of yourself with others.  Share your strengths, your ideals, your vision, your power.  Be willing to show others who you truly are, and you will become a powerful magnet for like-minded people.

Focus on what you can do for others, rather than what you stand to gain from others.  Ironically, a focus on giving will also increase the amount and magnitude of what you receive.  Again, don’t focus on that; just focus on contributing immense value to other people and the world in general.

Do only that which you can be proud of.  Remember, character is revealed by what you do when you think no one is watching.  A good  way to keep this in perspective is to imagine a hidden camera trained on you at all times.  If you would feel ashamed or guilty about an activity you’re considering – it’s a sure bet that it will detract from your character rather than adding to it.

The Value of Integrity Integrity is all about the values by which you live your life.  A person of great character usually has a strong sense of integrity, while a person of  negligible character has less (or no) integrity.

What are these values?  For the purposes of this article, value is defined as “the relative worth or importance of something”. Whatever traits or characteristics you consider to be very important or valuable are your personal “values”.

Common values that you may hold:

Honesty
Compassion
Fairness
Kindness
Respect

Integrity is simply adherence to your own code of values.  That means being loyal to your own ideas of how things should be in your world.  If honesty is one of your values, you would never dream of trying to cheat someone.  You simply wouldn’t be able to justify such an action in your own mind.

If you did try to side-step your values, you’d feel so uncomfortable that you wouldn’t be able to stand it.  The guilt and shame would eat at you until you did what you could to make the situation right again.Take a few moments right now and consider your own values.

What is very important to you regarding your own behaviour and the behaviour of others?  Write down anything that comes to mind so you can explore these thoughts in greater detail later. Even if you don’t know why you feel strongly about a particular value, write it down anyway.  As you explore your values, you’ll
realize that underlying motives can vary widely and that’s perfectly okay.

The main thing is to understand why your values are important to you. You may be surprised to learn that many of your values were formed as a result of your past experiences.  For example, you may have been cheated or lied to by someone you trusted, and the experience was so painful that you vowed never to do such a thing to someone else.

Voila, your value of honesty was born.If you were verbally abused or belittled when you were a child, you may now hold a value of kindness and compassion for whomever you meet. Once you have your list of values, compare them with your most common actions. Do you ever do things that are in opposition to your values?  If you do, you’ll quickly understand why this limits your personal excellence.

The feelings of guilt, shame, fear and embarrassment will consistently interfere with everything you do and diminish any sense of satisfaction you would have gained from your activities.You can also question and adjust your values as needed; especially if you formed your values (as a result of childhood conditioning) that are not serving you now.  A good example is the child who is conditioned to believe that money is the root of all evil and selfless service is God-like behaviour.

This child will likely grow into an adult who resists having any more money than necessary and struggles financially all of her life.Questioning and challenging (and ultimately changing) such a value will create a greater sense of empowerment and purpose in her life, rather than blindly living by someone else’s values.

A strict adherence to your values makes for an incredible experience, provided they are values that serve your highest good and the highest good of others.   Not only are you able to feel good about your day-to-day actions, you are able to keep growing and developing as a person. In other words, expanding your personal excellence!

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Peace in the Nations

Peace in the Nations is an Inspirational song soliciting for peace to reign all over the world. Today, we are living in a world of confusion, conflict almost everywhere, Nations are rising against Nations, why can't we live in PEACE and accept one another with unconditional LOVE?  Day and Night will pass away. Silver and Gold will pass away. But the spirit of love will never go away and shall always be the same. Feel the lyrics COOL!!!